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Post by .:↑ Mÿth ↓:. on Jun 21, 2006 9:11:10 GMT -5
Calling all brothers and sisters.
For a non-fiction piece I want to submit for a library contest I wanted to write about how parents treat each of their child. Most people I have asked say the girl(s) in their family don't get praised as much as the boy(s) do.
I have only managed to ask a few people and I don't like the idea of going up to people and asking them questions as it can be embarrassing sometimes. So I just want anyone from the site to answer a few questions and PM them to me with 'Research' as the title.
Do you have any brothers or sisters and how many of you are there, Do your parents treat you all equally or is there a different approach to how they handle each child, Are female members treated as fair as the male,
I may or may not ask more questions later on.
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KayJuran
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Post by KayJuran on Jun 21, 2006 9:17:55 GMT -5
There are three of us. I'm the oldest, and I've got two younger brothers.
I'd say that in general, the youngest tends to be more confident as they try to fight for attention. Because of that, and because the younger ones are sometimes cuter(!), I think the youngest can get more attention from parents.
The oldest is expected to be more responsible than the others.
I've heard that the middle child can sometimes feel left out, but I don't know whether this is true or not.
Feel free to ask any questions.
--Kay
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Post by arcticmike on Jun 21, 2006 9:19:53 GMT -5
the general rule is, girls can get whatever the hell they want from their dads. certainly is true in my family, any time anythings wrong with me or my sister, it's my fault. shes just perfect lol.
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Post by .:↑ Mÿth ↓:. on Jun 21, 2006 9:21:32 GMT -5
I happen to be a middle child and it is true for me that I feel left out or it is usually up to me to make amends.
Thank you both, no more questions at the moment though. (Wow! Quick replies!)
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Post by Areida on Jun 21, 2006 10:55:28 GMT -5
I'm a middle child too, and though it's gotten better as I've gotten older, I used to feel horribly left out. I'm second of four girls, so when I was younger, there was the oldest and then the two baby girls and then... me. I just didn't feel like I quite fit, you know? And I've always been the peacemaker in the family. Fun, isn't it? I think my parents treat us about the same, though my dad's a little harder on the first and third girls and my mom's a little easier on the oldest and youngest girls. Maybe my other sisters would say they're both easier on me, but I think it's because I'm just so easy-going that I rarely start fights or cause trouble. Not like I'm the angel child or anything, but normally they're worried because I'm not talking enough or something. My dad is harder on the oldest and second-to-youngest girls because (I think) they both have the worst tempers out of all of us, and my dad sees them as most susceptible to becoming like my mom (who has manic-depressive illness) unless they learn to control their behaviors and reactions. My mom is easier on the youngest and oldest because they've always been more Mommy's Girls than Daddy's. Mom dedicated so much time to the oldest because she was the only one for a couple of years and my oldest sister has always been a Mommy's Girl. The baby of the family (who's ten, so I guess maybe I should stop calling her the baby, but then again, she doesn't seem to care) gets coddled by mom because I think my mom feels like she still has time to gain loyalty from her. My parents were separated when I was in fourth grade, and my big sister and I said we wanted to live with my dad, meaning that the two little girls were going to go with us. So I think my mom believes that if she spoils and loves on my youngest sister, that maybe she'll want to come live with her someday. Sorry for rambling... I do that sometimes.
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sabradan
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Post by sabradan on Jun 21, 2006 21:54:27 GMT -5
well...I have a sister.
My mom denies this and will deny it to her grave, but my sister (younger) has always been the favorite.
I'm older, and a boy, 2 strikes for me.
I feel the older child is supposed to be more responsible, independent and a good role model. However, I am only independent, because due to the fact that my sister always got all the attention I didn't really set a good example.
Heres an example: I did/do karate, and I played football in High School. During the same time period, my sister took dance and was in choir. We had 9 game seasons, all on Friday or Saturday nights (so no work conflicts) My mom and dad went to...3 of my games in 2.5 years. But they went to all of my sisters recitals.
If I wanted something, I probably wouldn't get it, or I'd have to "earn" it usually by doing a huge chore, like cleaning the entire house, or the garage or something. My sister just had to ask my mom with the pouty-eyes.
This pattern has gotten a little better since we've gotten a little older, but its still pretty much the same. I'm their first child, the mistake. I'm the f*ck up and she's the little angel.
My dad is a bit better at being fair, but he works a lot so he's rarely home. But he also is really tough on me (more so than my sister) because I'm a man, and I need to be prepared for life as a man, which, apparently, means I need to be working 2 jobs and go to school full time in order to be a real man....
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.:↑ Mÿth ↓:.
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Post by .:↑ Mÿth ↓:. on Jun 22, 2006 4:10:54 GMT -5
Thanbk you both for the huge help, it seems people I know have parents that are "opposites" of yours.
Ari -- Being the peacemaker sometimes really gets on my nerves but someone has to do it. I'm usually quiet too so my parents often think I have problems when I don't.
Dan -- I know how you feel about having to 'earn a gift' it usually is because I don't work plus my parents have never given me pocket money.
If anyone else has something to say I'd be grateful.
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Post by Ani on Jun 22, 2006 7:30:09 GMT -5
I have a brother,and he is elder than me. My parents treat us all equally.Actually all the dad's have a very soft corner for their little princess's and all the mum's for their good boys,thats what I have seen.(atleast in some cases.)
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Post by reichieru on Jun 22, 2006 8:46:38 GMT -5
My boyfriend is also the classic middle child and feels left out in many circomstances just because he went to live with their mother when he turned fifteen. His father definitely does not treat them equally. It's a very typical case of conditional love. Mike is not as athletic, is bipolar, and had several behavioural problems in his early teens. His father may not have every touched him, but he could have easily built a case against his father to children's aid because of the way his father responded to the crying and other behaviours resulting from his condition. Whenever something went missing, no matter how many times it was proven that it had nothing to do with him, they always acused him of doing it before they knew anything.
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Post by .:↑ Mÿth ↓:. on Jun 22, 2006 9:35:58 GMT -5
Ani -- My younger sister is like a princess to my dad, its very embarassing to be seen with them both and my brothers are little mummy's boys, they need to leave her alone now. Reichieru -- I'm very sorry to hear about Mike, one of my sister has a similar past but my parents aren't seperated. She doesn't talk to my parents anymore and can't stand being at home. Thanks for the help, I'll be working the the piece as soon as I get some time to myself.
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sabradan
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Post by sabradan on Jun 22, 2006 18:32:51 GMT -5
Reicheiru, thats sorta like me too (about Mike being blamed for everything) Whenever something is missing, or something happens that shouldn't, etc, in our house, I am always the first one to blame. For example, my mom has special frozen meals for weight watchers for her to eat when she works late. The other day she came home and say that one or two were missing. Now, I hate the way they taste, and don't eat them...I'd rather fix myself a sandwich. My sister loves em and eats em all the time. But, when my mom came home and saw one or two missing, guess what was her first reaction? "Dan! Why did you eat my frozen meals! You know theyre for when I work late!"
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Post by MH Mijolnir on Jun 22, 2006 18:41:46 GMT -5
When I had a stepsister, I was totally shafted whenever she visited. Good god, I got stuck with every punishment and all that stuff. She was evil and never got in any trouble.
But shes gone now.
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Post by Duskglimmer on Jun 22, 2006 21:16:27 GMT -5
Do you have any brothers or sisters and how many of you are there:?
I've got three sisters and one brother.
Do your parents treat you all equally or is there a different approach to how they handle each child?:
We are treated equally, though there is definately a different approach to how they deal with each of us. For example, my two younger sisters are both Special Needs kids (one has downs syndrome and the other has a significant hearing loss that has made learning difficult for her) and so they require a little more of my parents time than the rest of us.
Are female members treated as fair as the male?:
I'd say so. My parents spend a lot of time with each of us and help us in the areas we need help, and encourage us in the areas that we love.
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Elizabeth
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Post by Elizabeth on Jun 23, 2006 1:13:47 GMT -5
I'm an A and B student. My brother got suspended 3 times.
I am an active role model. My brother will one day be on COPS.
When I was a baby I was an artist. My dad dropped my brother on his head.
Does that explain it?
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Post by .:↑ Mÿth ↓:. on Jun 23, 2006 6:52:54 GMT -5
Thanks MH, Dusky and Elizabeth, your contributions are much appreciated.
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